Attack of the Smug Marrieds*
*Smug Marrieds:Term coined by Fielding from 'Bridget Jones Diary'; refers to the married women who always begin a conversation with a single friend with the phrase "found someone yet?" or "so when are you going to get married?"
"A woman of a certain age with minimal education must be in want of a husband"- thinks a Smug Married,(a la Jane Austen and her first line from 'Pride and Prejudice').
I hear guys come across this too (never had proof though), but as a women of a certain age and from south-asian background these are some of the views I've come across:
-"How is university? Have you found someone for yourself yet?"
-"You graduated eh? So when are you getting married"
-"I hardly see you since you started work, must be a guy *wink*"
- 1 year into new job "You should hurry up and get married, coz you know after a certain age the glamour is gone"
- 2 year into job "Who will want to marry you when you are that old?"
- Change of job "Obviously your career is not going anywhere, either start grad school or get married"
- Latest "Do you even want to get married?" "Coz I dont want to see you turn into one of those girl who never want to get married!"
So let me get this straight-
If you are a little unsure about your future goals or even if you are sure but havn't gone through all the steps yet; the solution:
Coz 'someoneis out there for you'. Never mind you have not met him, or know anything about him, but guess what? 'he is the solution to all your problems/issues'. Get married and a husband will change everyting. Automatically you will be happy with your life coz he will provide money,house,distractions in the form of kids and your proper place in society.
Never mind that guys you will come across willl be momma's boys/commitmentphobic/fuckedup/from a different culture/chauvinistic/plain boring/or worse engineers, go out and get them and then live the rest of your life with them.
This is your destiny ,the meaning of your life.