Sunshine Too Brief


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I'm a self-absorbed Bengali-Torontonian;
Fish comes to me raw, wrappend in seaweed, not cooked in curry;
I love watching thunderstorms and rain;
Sad endings make more sense to me than happy ones;
I hate empty walls.

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Dark Chocolate
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Midnight's Children
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127 hours- *****
Buried- ****
That Girl in Yellow Boots- **
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Seeing James Franco
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Watch 'Going Postal' The Movie

My Novella: Samosa for the Arranged Souls

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Chapter 6

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    Double sided sticky tape

    Where have the three-dimensional people gone?
    Why is everyone and everything one or the other these days?
    Why must we choose between the icing on the cake or the cake itself? Why not enjoy both?
    Why is it that people find it so 'weird' that you can like Eminem and then Baul all in the same day?
    Why is enjoying 'Bollywood movies' looked down upon but not owning the collector's edition of 'There's something about Mary'?
    I do think these one-dimensional people are suffering from a lack of strong cultural identity.

    In the past 4 days I have had the great 'misfortune' of running into far too many BBID (Bangladesh-Born-Ignorant-Desis) and their 'opinions' and can say that I'm not pleased.
    Yes I may come out sounding like a middle-aged FOB (fresh off the boat, aka new immigrant, though technically its running the 9th seasoned immigrant I guess.) but I'm getting really tired of people passing judgments on a culture they have neither the understanding for nor a microdecible desire to learn.
    I'm not saying they have to know/like everything bengali but turn up your nose against something 'just because' it IS Bengali is just stupid.
    And that's exactly what these people do.
    They are born something and want to be something else. And this something is not decided upon either- one year it's 'black', next 'Punjabi' and next year its 'American'.
    But first thing they do is dismiss the culture they are born into.
    Okay, the whole rebelling against your parent's etc, Yes I get it. But do they really think the apple is going to fall that much further from the tree? Maybe there was strong wind or maybe the parent tree was busy elsewhere - resulting in the apple growing up thinking its an orange...... But I digress.
    I understand that you are not living 'in the old country' anymore and there are numerous cultures to pick from in the multicultural West, but why this opinion the 'new culture' is somehow superior to the one they were born into? Is it not a form of racism in itself? Ok maybe that's a little harsh. But it's damn funny listening to them speak I tell you.
    Eg. One of them babbles on about all the presidents of the United States of America who were assassinated, chronologically, but not know who Sheikh Mujibor Rahman' (father of the nation) is and then goes on to voice opinions about how the separation of Bangladesh from Pakistan spelled 'economic' doom for Bangladesh '.
    Then there are ones who think listening to every single Punjabi music group out of UK makes them 'Punjabi' but can't cite the timeline for the 'Green revolution in Punjab' or point out the location of the place Punjab on a world map (hint: it spans two countries).
    In other words- they are fickle and un-informed.
    In my opinion if you were to truly immerse yourself in one culture and its heritage, it wouldn't give you such a tunnel vision but should only help you see the common threads between all cultures, inciting you to learn more and appreciate them equally- and THAT can only be a good thing.

    PS: Yes I'm aware t hat I'm employing the term 'culture' very losely here. I am only referring to the terms(Bengali/French/Sikh etc) people use to announce themselves while making a statement.


    At 3:29 a.m., April 10, 2005, Blogger Simika said...

    on the other hand, you have the equally fucked up the bangladesh-born bangladeshis living in Bangladesh, especially the MALE ones, who talk big about being bangali, who support Pakistan in cricket, hate Indians, refuse to acknowledge that Calcutta bengalis are bengalis too,who fucking look down upon you for not wearing your orna all the time, sleep around but dont want to marry "whores", whostart smoking at the age of 12 but call women who smoke sluts etc etc etc. They pick and choose the parts of Bangaliness they like, and somehow all the traditions they uphold have to do wtih dominating over women, makig sure women don't progress. The patronising, teh condenscending pigs.

    Can you tell I've had a bad week?:D

    At 11:01 a.m., April 10, 2005, Blogger Tazzy said...

    yes I don't get the whole supporting Pakistan in Cricket-not because they are a good team, but they are 'brothers'.
    I do see where the India -phobia comes from- its like sleeping next to an elephant- a phrase used for USA mostly but equally applicable to India-Bangladesh relations.
    Now if somehow by further subjugating the common man, Bangladesh were to gain nuclear power like Pakistan it would be a 'developed' nation immediately.
    Its a sad world indeed.

    At 1:08 a.m., April 13, 2005, Blogger Rezwan said...

    You really scare me. Are those people that much itchy? Probably they are from the lot, who desparately try for immigration as they are not meritorious/competent enough to get a good degree and a good job in BD.

    The hardest thing is to change the views of the opportunists. And that makes life difficult associating with them. As the saying goes:

    Ignorance and inconsideration are the two great causes of the ruin of mankind.

    At 9:59 a.m., April 13, 2005, Blogger Tazzy said...

    I agree with the saying "Ignorance and inconsideration are the two great causes of the ruin of mankind", Rezwan.
    I was actually speaking more about youths like me who were born in bangladesh and left the country at an early age with parents (who themselves chose to emmmigrate for what ever reason).
    It isn't about if they choose to forego the life in the west and go back to help Bangladesh. Thats later. Its more about how negatively they view the (Bengali)culture of their parents while growing up as if everything Bengali is somehow inferior as opposed to being 'just different'.

    On another level it IS about oppurtunists as you can see the same attitude with Canadians who do move/want to move to the US for school/work...and suddenly start refering to themselves as 'us Americans'. urgh.


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