Sunshine Too Brief


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I'm a self-absorbed Bengali-Torontonian;
Fish comes to me raw, wrappend in seaweed, not cooked in curry;
I love watching thunderstorms and rain;
Sad endings make more sense to me than happy ones;
I hate empty walls.

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Dark Chocolate
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Midnight's Children
Movie review(out of 5)-
127 hours- *****
Buried- ****
That Girl in Yellow Boots- **
Love of the week-
Seeing James Franco
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Watch 'Going Postal' The Movie

My Novella: Samosa for the Arranged Souls

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Chapter 6

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    Friendly Torontonians

    Recently I ran into two new arrivals to our city who proclaimed that 'Torontonians are Not friendly'.
    This statement made in earnest was enough to wake me up from my lazy break from the blog world, because I was aghast when I heard it.
    "What do you mean?"
    "I thought you are from Atlanta! Are you telling me that Atlanta is a friendlier city than Toronto?!" etc so ran my retort.
    Looking back on my reaction I wonder if it was due to the Descartes effect of the popular phrase 'Toronto is a friendly city' i.e. We Torontonians think we are a friendly bunch so we must be a friendly.

    But are we really friendly?

    What, in fact, decides the 'friendly-factor' of a city?

    -Smiling faces?
    -friendly chats with random strangers?
    -Open minds?
    -All of the above?

    Are the criterion dependent on the size of the city? Most likely. So lets only look at big cities as I'm generally biased against small cities. They are great on a road trip/day trip but really how can one live in a place with one theatre?

    Nyway.... Yes its true that people living in big cities do not smile. But here is a good reason Why. Its because 'Walking around with a smile on your face' generally gets the following reactions-
    -butt pinched (or 'felt up')
    -impromptu declarations of love
    -close encounters from the homeless/crazy/druggy on the lines of "I'm homeless, wanna take me home?"
    That is why everyone has learned to walk with a look of furious concentration of 'ohmygawd I'm late' . So excuse us for not smiling all the time.....We are smiling deep down.

    Big cities are not generous. Most wondering artist, struggling visa student will tell you this. It is true unfortunately. It is however hasty to assume random acts of generosity do not occur in big cities. It might be small but I've been given generous directions ("You are standing on Bloor Street, miss", said with a straight face), allowed to board buses without the exact change and even drawn in chats with people standing in a queue about things other than the weather. People have been more than generous-with their time and money.

    And Torontonians DO have an open mind...just take a walk down our 'Gayvillage'.
    I don't know guys...... I think we are 'Friendly enough'! no? err....or no definitely... 'Friendlier' than NY?! Oh yes. For sure.

    Oh then, why do the Vancouverites(is that a term?) hate us so?


    At 1:57 a.m., June 06, 2006, Blogger Simika said...

    heheh what are u saying? i should stop smiling at homeless men so they stop asking me to take them home?:D hahahah gawd i just remembered how freaked i was that day

    but i think we're not as friendly as say...halifax, but we're definitely friendlier than say ottawarians :) havin said that, i must say things are changing. over the past 10 years, i think we've become less friendly - one jsut has to drive on the roads these days to see all the road rage and not so friendly hand gestures!

    At 10:48 a.m., June 09, 2006, Blogger Rojo said...

    I think it's all very relative - but for Americans to come to Toronto and say that we're not friendly is like the pot calling the kettle black - simply no comparison. Sure, you might not want to look at a Torontonian while standing in an elevator for fear of an evil glance, unlike in say, the Maritimes, but go to Atlanta and you'll get way more than that.

    So I think, at the end of the day, Toronto gets a bad name next to the rest of Canada, but as you said, we can't take home everyone we meet without a home, now can we?

    At 10:56 p.m., June 12, 2006, Blogger Anostica said...

    I think toronto people are friendly..I've been there. However, midwest america is the most friendliest :)


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